Sometimes life doesn't go the way we want. That’s why it's really important to stay in touch with who you are and what you want. Continue to pursue those things so that no matter what direction life goes, you can still find happiness. The more you get to know yourself the easier it gets, but you can't start only when you feel low. It's a lifestyle that is continuous. It's not always easy, but it's worth it. I've had a lot of moments in my life that didn't go the way I planned, but I always bounce back by finding happiness in myself then pursuing happiness in new ways or new places. Try journaling, praying, and meditating everyday to start getting in tune with yourself and figuring out what you really want. Then start going after it. There is no reason to be afraid to pursue the life you want. If you are afraid, then just do it afraid. Facing your fears is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself to become free.